Giving without expecting anything in return

I used to feel uncomfortable of the idea of giving and not receiving anything in return. I used to not appreciate giving in the ways I do now. I used to give to a few who I knew would return the favor. I used to not feel as good about giving, I thought people would take advantage of me if I gave more than I received, therefore, I guarded myself. I used to see giving as a way of reaching those who I knew would do the same for me.

Forward a few years later, and my whole idea changed about giving. I love giving now. It makes me feel good. I give to give myself a sense of peace. I give to feel good. This whole “give without expecting anything in return” phenomena happened because of a certain situation. I remember I was so down and angry once, and I didn’t know what to do. I remember thinking maybe I should turn this whole situation around and be there for my loved ones, give without any expectations, and that was exactly what I did.

I started being there for my family more, I started being there for my friends more. I stopped holding grudges. I quickly forgave and loved. I started living in the present and appreciating time for what it was. More importantly, I started to give without the expectation of receiving anything in return. The more I gave, the more I felt good about myself. The more I gave, the more connections and peace I started to regain. The more I gave without holding anything, the more optimistic I felt about my life. The more I gave, the more I started appreciating others, and no matter what was going on in my life, I always felt a sense of accomplishment. The more I gave, I started to receive all of the great things that were happening in my life. This definitely made me feel I was in control and quickly able to move on from certain situations.

This made me realize what an improvement I made from the days I was so calculated about my giving. I used to be so careful with my giving. I was always worried that I would get hurt because of my giving ways. Now I realize that I don’t have to necessarily live life the way I used to.

Although it’s great to give, it’s still good to know that you aren’t being taken advantage of. There are plenty of people who love to take advantage of generous souls since they aren’t generous themselves. They are hurt to see how others can be so giving and loving when it’s hard for them to do so. It’s good to understand these types of people exist, and not be broken down when you cross paths with them.

I’m still my loving and generous self when I’m met with folks who may not be the same. I don’t change just because others are hateful. I try to understand their journeys and try to see why they are behaving the way they are. Although these kinds of situations can affect us, we shouldn’t try to let it affect us for a long time. It’s good to acknowledge and try not to be affected as much as possible. Remember people are trying to do the best they can from their own perspectives.

Despite all of the people I’ve been met with, I still continue to give. Remember you are in control of your emotions and actions, and it’s important to not have others dictate your actions and ways.

I will always continue to love, contribute, build, heal and more importantly, give without expecting anything in return. May you always do the same.

Peace and Love,

Hermela

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