Letting go of those that aren’t serving us any longer

Lately, there have been many instances where I felt I was holding on for too long. I know I should just let things go, but I can’t. To be quite honest, I don’t know where all of this is coming from, but its been hard for me lately to let certain things go, especially things that aren’t meant for me. I’ve always believed in surrounding myself with the best people to bring out the best in me, thus creating better situations, but these past few months have shown otherwise. I have found certain situations draining and exhausting. I’ve found myself hard to let go, and when I say hard, extremely hard.

This process taught me what its like when people say they can’t let go of certain situations. It truly isn’t easy. When people say they can’t let go, I used to wonder how they can’t let go. I used to think it was easy to remove myself from situations that were no longer serving me, but recently I’ve been proven otherwise.

It’s always good to know what steps you need to take to let go of situations that aren’t meant for you. The first step is to always figure out what is causing the chaos in your life. The next step is to make yourself ready to let go and the final step is to be patient with yourself because the journey may not be that easy, and it can possibly take a bit of time, too.

Life definitely gives us some great lessons in doses. We have to be grateful for the lessons and make the best decisions we need to make along the way. Life throws all kinds of people in our lives, and although it’s important to be careful who we let in, we’ll occasionally find ourselves in situations where we don’t mean to find ourselves in. When this happens, we shouldn’t get overly anxious, but try to take the necessary steps needed to create peace in our life again. It’s all apart of the journey to take us to the destination.

I learned that it is okay to be in these situations. The best way to deal with these kinds of circumstances is to understand we’re in these situations that hinder us to begin with. It’s important to understand that we’re in situations where we aren’t happy, peaceful and successful. We see these situations as hindering and crippling. We’re in these moments because they help us from realizing we’re not by ourselves, they create chatters and loud noises in our lives, they create these moments where we no longer feel lonely.

Sooner or later, we have to realize that we can’t be in these situations any longer because they aren’t serving what we need, we have to realize that they aren’t good for us, we have to realize that they do not challenge us, and they are just there as a mere illusion to give us temporary “happy” feelings.

It’s better to let these kinds of situations and people go early on, especially if we feel it in our hearts, It’s better to deal with the losses and the heartaches and do the work we need to do to feel better, and start making the better connections we need in our lives. If we don’t do this type of work sooner, the moment we realize we should have done this, it’ll be too late, and we’ll start regretting for all of the work we have’t done to create better situations.

The “what if” questions will kill us. The longer we’re in situations that aren’t serving us, the questions we ask keep getting longer and longer. We will start asking ourselves questions such as “What would have happened if I removed myself out of that situation sooner?”, “Would I have found better relationships with others?”, “Would I have lived a better and fulfilling life?”, “Would I have found the one?”, “Would I have travelled to places I haven’t been before?”.

The moment we find ourselves we’re still in situations we don’t want to be in, it’s slowly going to start killing us and reminding us we need to leave, but we have to be brave enough to leave when we need to, get out and start meeting new people and not be afraid to live our lives boldly and happily, because we deserve to live fierce lives.

We can’t be afraid to change things up, hold onto the most precious moments we have created with others, yet let go of what we need to let go of, dream, work, breathe, be better, be around those who challenge us and help us grow. Don’t allow ourselves to feel crippled, no matter how hard things get and no matter how long they may take.

Remember to always acknowledge you need to change things around if they aren’t working out for you, work on it a little each day and have lots of patience! You will eventually be around people who you can’t get enough of, and situations that will make you better each day. Remember also when you feel down, its apart of life. Realize better things are coming very soon.

Peace and Love,

Hermela

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